Allah has got your back
Certainly has Allah heard the speech of the one who argues with you, [O Muhammad], concerning her husband and directs her complaint to Allah . And Allah hears your dialogue; indeed, Allah is Hearing and Seeing.
Those who pronounce thihar among you [to separate] from their wives – they are not [consequently] their mothers. Their mothers are none but those who gave birth to them. And indeed, they are saying an objectionable statement and a falsehood. But indeed, Allah is Pardoning and Forgiving.
And those who pronounce thihar from their wives and then [wish to] go back on what they said – then [there must be] the freeing of a slave before they touch one another. That is what you are admonished thereby; and Allah is Acquainted with what you do.
And he who does not find [a slave] – then a fast for two months consecutively before they touch one another; and he who is unable – then the feeding of sixty poor persons. That is for you to believe [completely] in Allah and His Messenger; and those are the limits [set by] Allah . And for the disbelievers is a painful punishment.
Indeed, those who oppose Allah and His Messenger are abased as those before them were abased. And We have certainly sent down verses of clear evidence. And for the disbelievers is a humiliating punishment.
On the Day when Allah will resurrect them all and inform them of what they did. Allah had enumerated it, while they forgot it; and Allah is, over all things, Witness.
Have you not considered that Allah knows what is in the heavens and what is on the earth? There is in no private conversation three but that He is the fourth of them, nor are there five but that He is the sixth of them – and no less than that and no more except that He is with them [in knowledge] wherever they are. Then He will inform them of what they did, on the Day of Resurrection. Indeed Allah is, of all things, Knowing.
A woman’s plead
Hazrat Muhammad peace be upon him was in Madinah when a woman walked in, pleading, crying. She complained He peace be upon him about her husband who in anger has said her that she is my mother from now onwards. The point is that the husband is breaking up with her. This is the common practice in Arab during the times of ignorance. It is worse than divorce. The woman is devastated. Screaming, raising her voice. Asking for help. Allah could have sent the ayah before the woman asks for but he planned that she speaks up. She raises her voice so all can hear the woman who is psychologically troubled by her husband.
Battle of love and pride
The husband will not go back to his words as what is once said is said. For Arabs taking back words and decision is a big blow to their pride. The woman named khouwla was devastated. She begged he peace be upon him, raised her voice, called upon Allah for his help. These ayahs came down in response to her plead.
The other day I was listening to Nouman Ali khan’s lecture on Surah Mujadilah. It touched me deeply that how much Allah loves us and the wisdom behind shariah makes sure every one right is taken care off. The Surah started with the ayah which talks about the attribute of Allah.
The hearer, the seer
Allah says that he has heard the conversation occurred between the prophet and woman. Moreover, he has also heard the argument that took place between the husband and wife. Now, this caused my hairs to rise on hands. Imagine you and your spouse talks in private, the bedroom talks, and a private zone of yours. And Allah can hear everything. This calls for a check on the content of your talks. Are your talks worthy to be listened by the supreme, the high, the almighty? However, in this scenario, Allah has heard what the husband has said. Cause Allah hears and sees every single thing.
Oh men! You better watch out
The woman you abused verbally, the woman you look down upon, the woman you suppress as you have got one degree superior over here. You better watch out for what you say and do. What is the punishment waiting for those who abuse their wives physically? Remember She has got the backing of the most supreme. When we are given responsibility, we tend to become authoritative too. A manager makes use of his responsibility and is authoritative on is subordinates. We control the ones who are under our immanah.
From now on, you are my mother
In the second ayah Allah says no matter you call your wife – mother. It will not affect the relation as your mothers who have borne you are your mothers only. When humans are overwhelmed, they cut off the family ties. A father may say to his son that I disown you when is hurt. Allah is ready to pardon and forgive. But he has to pay for the humiliation he has done.
Oops slip of tongue
In the third ayah and fourth, Allah talks about how to rectify the error he has made. You cannot just say sorry and get along with it easily. The punishment of making your wife haram to you by zihaar when Allah has made her halal to you via nikkah is a major sin. It calls for freeing a slave. And if one cannot find slave, then fast for sixty consecutive days before you touch her. If misses one then have to start again. Means no gap in between. And if one cannot do that too then feed sixty people.
Allah never forgets
This is the crucial ayah which has badly shaken my conscience. We as humans tend to forget the things we do or say but we have good sound memory when it comes to other’s wrong doings to us. But in this surah Allah says. Small sins will be a big heap. Abstain from doing little sins too. A crime is not proved when the proof is absent in the courts here. But what will happen on the day when the court will be established by the lord of the universe. He will be the judge ayah on just judge. A day on which our own body parts will speak against us. It is when he the supreme authority will do justice. What will we do then, where will we find shelter? We think that no one can listen to us and say bad outrages things to each other. Every relation is somewhat poisoned by this attitude that we are sugary sweet in public where we are viewed by others but our privates are endorsed with sarcasm, taunts. We assume no one witness this dark side of ours. It is to know that Allah himself is the one who witness. When he is a witness, we are a total loss and the ball is on the court of the one which we have harm in any way.
When you sin, don’t think you are alone
Allah knows what is in the heavens and earth and what is in between. This implies the existence of Allah everywhere. He is the one who knows and listen every single thing we do and word we say. Surah MUJADILAH is not all about this specific issue. Only the first seven ayahs are related to this issue. The later ayahs are about the conspiracy that non-believers used to make to undermine the work of prophet and /or conspire to kill him. Now ponder, which one is more crucial? The marital problem or the conspiracy against the prophet? Undoubtedly the later one. Islam lays stress on the respect and integrity of all individuals. A bunch of healthy families can form a good community. This is why the surah has addressed this issue.
It has calmed my nerves on one hand, and has made me cautious on other. On daily basis, our untamed tongue says things that rip someone’s soul apart and we think that no one can question us. But we forget, the person can connect to Allah and complain of our wrong doing to him. How can then we escape? We might win the politics we play under the banner of love and possessiveness but in later we are a total loss